A Melbourne woman has turned away from bullies who call her a “housewife of the 50s” because she cooks her husband three meals a day.
The liberation of women has come a long way in the last century.
Women and mothers in most parts of the world are no longer expected to stay home caring for their husbands and children, but are encouraged to pursue the goals they desire.
With these new freedoms, we now have the option to do almost anything we want to do.
But what happens when women want to take advantage of some of these more traditional roles?
For Sonali Arora, cooking all of her husband’s meals is what brings her the most joy throughout the day.
The 26-year-old, recently married, says food is her “language of love” and making sure her Nipun partner is well-fed makes her happy.
But after sharing her daily routine on TikTok, the cybersecurity worker received a cruel reaction from trolls who called her a “50s housewife,” and some even say she is “destroying” the release. of women.
“Food is my language of love and nothing makes me happier than taking care of my husband,” the Melbourne woman said.
“I make my husband three meals a day and I will make him a snack to take him to work.
“I’ve always loved cooking, so sharing that passion online just made sense.
“But instantly, I was struck by so much hatred for making my husband’s meals. People said she was a housewife in the ’50s and she was destroying feminism and female freedom.
“It surprised me. I am a successful and educated young woman, I love my career and I am very independent.
“But I also love cooking for my husband, and some people seem to think these two parts of me can’t coexist.”
Sonali, who married Nipun, 28, in January this year, said she started cooking all of her husband’s meals both for pure enjoyment and to make sure she ate well.
With Nipun working long hours as the company’s director, Sonali explained that he often forgot to eat or was struggling to eat fresh, healthy meals.
As she works from home on her role, Sonali said it made sense to prepare her partner’s meals while cooking for herself.
“I’ve always liked food. I’m really excited to try new recipes and try new flavors, ”he said.
“Nothing makes me happier than seeing my husband’s happy face when he loves what I’ve done.
“People just assume I’m being oppressed or being backward, but actually my husband jokes that I’m the head of our relationship.
“They think he’s forcing me to do this or that it’s kind of misogynistic, but it’s not like that at all. He is the sweetest and most supportive man in the world who lets me be who I want to be.
“He never asked me to do any of this for him. I want to do it because I love him and it makes me happy.”
Sonali shares what she cooks for her husband on a day on her TikTok channel, to help inspire and motivate other people who might be caught up in a cooking routine.
He said that while most of the comments he receives are positive and supportive, he does deal with trolls who “assume the worst” of their marriage.
“Are you two years old?” commented one person.
“You should prepare your own lunch!”
“Let him make his own meals, he’s not a kid,” another said.
“Who prepares your lunch?”
Despite the negative comments, Sonali said she would not do it any other way and added that her husband does many other things at home, such as washing his dishes often.
“I really don’t understand why people have a problem with that,” he said.
“It’s my life, it makes me happy. It shouldn’t be a problem.
“Making my husband’s meals isn’t about turning back the women’s liberation clock, and I’m by no means a 50s housewife as some like to say.
“For me, it’s a small thing to show my husband how much I love and care for him.
“It’s the little things that help keep the spark alive in a marriage.”
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